Many women today have to deal with alcohol problems in the family. "My husband drinks alcohol every day, what to do? ", "My husband has been drinking for 10 days, how should I behave? ". - these questions are being heard more and more often lately. Of course, the spouse is an alcoholic - it's scary. And binge drinking, if left untreated, has the potential to turn life into perpetual torture in general. But here you must always remember that alcoholism is a disease, and not a personal choice of a particular person. The sick person definitely needs the support of loved ones, especially when he cannot cope with the problem on his own. But, as a rule, when the husband drinks, the wife has to suffer first. And at such times the question often arises: what to do when the husband is drunk? There are several ways out of this situation: leave him and get a divorce, or try to fight for your life and help your loved one. Although we can confidently say that this fight will not be easy. But the decision here must be made by the woman herself, no advice from any psychologist can help. Only she herself can decide what she wants and what she can do to achieve her goals.
Difficult decisions
Divorce is the simplest and easiest solution. Thus, a woman seems to relieve herself of responsibility for the future fate of a man. But in this case, you should adhere to a certain behavior. The main thing here: if you decide to leave, leave. Whatever the persuasion or the plea, it's important to know that the promises of an alcoholic cannot be trusted. He will do everything to convince his wife: burst into tears, give gifts, kneel. If this doesn't work, he may resort to violence or blackmail. Therefore, you should not follow his lead, because believing in this once, you can provoke the repetition of such concerts. And they can last for more than a week, and even more than a month. The advice of a psychologist in this case is ambiguous: you need to make a firm decision, convey this clearly to your husband, do not trust promises and should not give in to pity. We must always remember that no matter how bad the husband is, the wife is much worse.
If the choice is made in the direction of fighting and helping the closest, then the woman will have to be patient. The most important thing in this case is to understand why the husband started drinking, and then dive deeper into the solution of the problem. Today, there are many ways to quit drinking for a person.
First of all, you need to learn how to behave properly. If your spouse starts drinking more often and goes into drinking parties regularly, you can try changing tactics. After all, he was sure that, by the time he got home, he would have been entangled in another scandal with tears in his eyes and broken dishes. Or maybe he will be greeted by deathly silence and chilling contempt? In any case, you need to try to change: become more affectionate, caring and caring for him, try to open up to him other joys in life, besides drinking. Often this behavior confuses men and then it's a lot easier to deal with. At the very least, you will protect yourself and your children from unprovoked aggression and save your nerves.
Second, you need to try to protect the faithful man from his drinking buddies. Indeed, most a man drinks vodka for company, or for loneliness. When drinking, men are very self-deprecating. It seems to them that they no longer need anyone and are not suitable for anything. Trying to prove him wrong:
- to show that he is the head of the family, her hope and support, and that without his involvement everything could fall apart;
- focus attention on children who find it psychologically difficult to live with an alcoholic father;
- to attract him with new hobbies and interests.
Code dependency
It can be a woman who can't get rid of her alcoholic husband. There could be many reasons for this, but she needs to find a way to live on.
There is such a thing as dependence, when a woman, completely independent of her husband, tries to get him out of the pit and bring him back to her family. This usually happens when a woman has a deep emotional attachment to her lover. Only an experienced psychologist can help here.
There are obvious signs by which one can judge the presence of code dependencies:
- the woman is responsible for her husband's health, mood and happiness;
- try to please her husband by doing all the work for him;
- feels the need to help her husband with problems, generally to solve problems for him;
- justify the spouse's inappropriate behavior in front of others;
- feel guilty about what happened to her husband;
- close your eyes to the problem, believing that all you haven't done is for the better;
- fall into the same state of dependence on alcohol, no longer having the strength to resist;
- see themselves as victims of past sins;
- physically or emotionally attached to a spouse.
What does a wife do when her husband has a heat stroke?
There are many reasons why men are infatuated for a long time. Here are the main ones:
- unwillingness to fight addiction;
- family conflict;
- inability to cope with stress.
Everyone knows that alcohol causes a feeling of euphoria, thus developing one of the strongest addictions in a person, which he may not want to overcome. Weak spirit and willpower can also be one of the reasons why it is difficult for you to drink alcohol. And if stress at home or at work is long-lasting, a person can drink almost every day.
Denying alcoholism is a problem for all alcoholics. You may constantly hear all sorts of excuses, such as, "Yes, I'm an alcoholic, and I love it! " or "I don't drink for no reason. " Alcoholics don't. never admitted that he was prone to addiction, it seemed to him that he could quit drinking whenever he wanted. But in reality, everything ends with another fun, after which the assurance of themselves and those around them of their constancy begins again.
What to do in such a situation is not difficult to understand - treat it decisively. But what a certain wife shouldn't do is something worth looking into. Unworthy:
- find reasons for his hard drinking;
- hide problems, use guidelines, try to prove that you are not who you are;
- justify her husband in front of a colleague or boss for his systematic lack of work or tardiness;
- drink with your spouse to him less;
- let him drink alcohol at home, as long as he doesn't drink on the street;
- to wash and clean up after him the consequences of his drunkenness;
- buy alcohol;
- blackmail by sex;
- threatened divorce;
- secret treatment from her husband from him.
There are different ways that can help get a person out of their drunken state:
- drug solution;
- folk remedies;
- psychological support and rehabilitation program;
- pray or conspire against alcoholism.
Drunk
With such an early stage of alcoholism, you can try to detox with folk methods. It is also good that the treatment can be done at home. The first thing to do is to let the patient sleep and then resume bed rest. Drink plenty of water to restore the water-salt balance in the body. In this case, various fruit drinks, herbal infusions and decoctions are suitable. You can also take contrast showers, herbal baths, massages and other treatments aimed at improving and restoring the body. It is not advisable to seek the help of medical intervention without consulting a specialist, otherwise you can cause unpredictable complications.
Drink much
When the hangover lasts more than three days, you'll most likely need the help of an orator. A specialist can be called at home. He will accurately assess the patient's condition and prescribe the medications to take, carefully following the doctor's instructions.
Often, to relieve withdrawal symptoms, the home doctor places an IV drip, which clears the blood of alcohol toxins and ethanol breakdown products. It also often contains restorative and sedative ingredients. The reality is that a person who drinks alcohol often becomes aggressive, panics, or experiences unexplained fears.
To help him calm down and restore his nervous system after being intoxicated, the doctor can consult classes with a psychologist and prescribe psychotropic drugs.
Heavy intoxication
Usually a hangover lasts a week or more. If the situation is practically out of control, or the drinker has a history of chronic diseases, in which case only admission to a specialist clinic for drug addiction or detoxification can be made. Hospital treatment will help prevent potentially unpleasant consequences of intoxication, which can manifest as "delirium" or alcohol-induced psychosis. In such a state, the patient cannot control himself and may act aggressively towards any family member, falling into a state of derangement. Of course, this should not be brought up, but if suddenly withdrawal syndrome is very difficult to treat with herbs or prayer is indispensable. You need to go to the hospital for a check-up as soon as possible, otherwise, you can seriously harm your health, possibly even lead to death.
conclude
When a husband is addicted to alcohol - this is a terrible grief for those close to him. They worry and suffer, even more than the patient herself. Sometimes life becomes so precarious that you have to choose: keep healthy for your family or for yourself. It is rare for a woman to end her once happy family life, especially when there are children who still love their father. All that remains for her is to pull her loved ones out of this terrible trap. However, it is difficult to do this alone, and in fact, it is not necessary. In this case, one cannot do without psychological help and support. The advice of an experienced therapist will tell you the right manners and what to do to get your husband out of his drunkenness and back to a normal life. All that remains is great patience and despair in any case, because despair can lead to hasty actions, which you can then sincerely regret.